Confronting by itself is a dangerous game. It could shut the affair down. It could be the moment where she says 'screw you' and flings the A out into the open. How are you going to handle being with a woman who will be flaunting her R with another man in front of you?
Versus not confronting and letting things go? One should stand up for their self and confront - unless weakness plays a factor... If he confronts, he needs to be ready to back the "or else." Otherwise, he will become the world's biggest doormat. Either the affair will be allowed to continue, or not. If he doesn't care if the affair continues, then that is a whole different kettle of fish in its own right...if he is ok with being her toy, then don't confront and let it go. Otherwise, grow a pair and stand up for one's self and say either the affair or me, but not both. But, if that route is taken he must be ready to walk away and file or whatever.
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Im not sure your confrontation needs to be before Valentine's Day. But I wouldnt go 'all out' as it sounds like you are planning.
Ok, so what is the meaning of V-day? Granted he doesn't need to do it before then, but he most certainly does not need to go for a romantic thing when she is involved with someone else.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
