And confront her. Now that you have proof, your road has drastically changed.
Slowwwwww dowwwwwwwwn.
Confronting by itself is a dangerous game. It could shut the affair down. It could be the moment where she says 'screw you' and flings the A out into the open. How are you going to handle being with a woman who will be flaunting her R with another man in front of you?
Im not saying confrontation is BAD. But, by itself, it isnt that meaningful. You need to get your ducks in a row first. Make sure you have a clear plan in place about what you want, what you will accept, what you will do, etc.
She will TEST you at every turn once its out there. If you arent strong enough, you will get crushed.
Originally Posted By: Jeep74
Why? Honestly, why wait? She doesn't care about you in that sense, so why put yourself through it?
Im not sure your confrontation needs to be before Valentine's Day. But I wouldnt go 'all out' as it sounds like you are planning.
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It most definitely it over and it has been over for much longer than you think or care to admit. You have proof of the affair. There isn't room in her for two, and guess who isn't included. The question you need to be asking yourself is how and why - how are you going to go forward and why would you fight for someone who has no inclination to fight for you?
This is totally against everything in DB/DR. Of course your marriage is worth fighting for. That said, the marriage that you had is dead. Your W isnt going to choose to stay in the marriage if it doesnt evolve into something better. And to do that, YOU need to be the one to start the change.
Have you read Sandi's rules? If not, print them ad paste them to your forehead so you'll remember them.
