I don't know CT. I'm not in your shoes yet but I'm sure I will be.
Knowing that my MLC-W is going to make bad choices... and she will have 50% custody... I'm trying to accept the fact that my kids will talk about the men in her life.
I can't blame my kids for being kids.
I can blame my W for making bad choices in men, I suppose. I guess I would if she exposed the kids to some guy she's just having a fling with. But if she chooses some dipshit for her next multi-year romance ... that's all a part of who she is now. Maybe I can blame her, but I shouldn't expect her to pull herself out of that.
Just talking aloud...
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final