Newbie....Wife has left , Need Help

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JKR - perhaps you did not write down all your feelings, but your father passed away (for which I am truly sorry, I can imagine that was extra painful among your R stuff). May I suggest you bereave that one first. You said she still loves you, ask her to chill on the D stuff for a couple weeks while you process your father. She should give you that if she still loves you.Let her go, not the children, make the changes for you.

You mentioned her not trusting you, bankruptcy, get your sh1t together, and something about beers on the weekend. Do you have a drinking problem? Do you have a spending problem? Have you cheated in the past? What is it about you that she no longer trusts or won't allow herself to trust? I don't think you have said that.

Ex. Me, my lady said she did not trust me a year ago when we split. Why - I was addicted to oxy. So her not trusting me was not really a surprise to me. Now, we are still not together, but she has verbalized her faith of trust back to me.How, my actions dude. Sustained and consistent behavior which betters YOU. That is the key to your own self. Others will notice - her the kids your mom.

So I would bet you told her you would stop doing something in the past or do it less and you told her more than once and didn't deliver...was it drinking, spending, ignoring?

So what is her trust issue