Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #8]

[JRuss]

FG -- Sorry to hear about the house not working out. But very glad to hear you're to the point where you can think of your future, even if only briefly, and not hate or fear what you see. That took a long, long time for me, and I still veer into bad patches, but it does keep coming back, especially now that we're down to picking over old furniture and cookware, and she's more concerned about that stuff and how she'll cope financially (she has actually sought sympathy from me!) than she is with the loss of time she'll have with her kids. Just sort of gross and definitely not attractive or someone I'd want to be with.

Another thing that helped was finally talking to the kids. By all appearances, they're doing ok with it, and that has really freed me up to start thinking maybe this isn't the end of the world. I know how hard I tried. As do they.