H and I are high school sweethearts. Immediately after our marriage there were significant changes in him. I'm fairly positive he is bipolar, though he's never been diagnosed.
The mood swings over the years played a huge part in our marriage and probably the complete breakdown of it. He had 2 EA's and I've just recently learned of his PA by his new girlfriend's fiancee.
He started to become manic around September. My first indication of serious problems was due to sudden FB posts the day before Thanksgiving. After telling him I was humiliated and upset over his behavior, I was not only unfriended but also completely blocked. In the end, this was a great favor to me. I didn't need to keep being exposed to that.
He didn't mention D until after New Years, however he's changing history to suit his selfish needs. He's already lied to OW multiple times and tries to convince me too. He's great with manipulation, but I'm pretty clear on how it all played out so that won't work for me.
We have an in house separation and this is tough. In most cases, he avoids me like the plague, but in others still expects me to behave like a wife.
I'm close with several members of his family, so talking with them usually ends in a tear fest. My kids are from one end of the spectrum to the other. 1 is angry with his father, 1 is happy because she thinks she's getting her dad all to herself and 1 either doesn't understand or doesn't care. I'm worried about them when the time actually comes. They know about the talk of D, but nothing has been filed and we're all in the same house. Their lives haven't been really impacted yet.
I'm doing well with detaching. Most days. I've started GAL and feeling better about myself. Completely scared about my future, but ready to get on with it. However, I'm not blind to the fact that this could be because he's still here that I'm feeling ok with moving on. I can't imagine you spend 26 years with someone and on moving day not become a blubbering mess.
M:41 H:43 T:26yrs M:19 yrs S:15 D1:14 D2:9 Living together but separated
