So last night H wanted to talk about a timeline for putting the house on the market. Just some quick background. We spoke to a realtor over the summer who told us it would be better to sell the house, then file for divorce that way any potential buyers won't get wind of the D and think "divorce sale."
He told me that I know what his position is on the marriage and he said he wants to put the house on the market. He acknowledged he can't do that without my permission so he wants a timeline. I gave in and told him May.
But seriously, I don't want to do this. I don't want to sell the house, but not b/c I want to live there. I don't want to sell b/c then we will have to work out a custody/visitation agreement and I will see S less (which is a HUGE issue for me). The alternative is to refuse to cooperate and force him to file for a D and get a court order to sell the house. This option will obviously frustrate him and p@ss him off. I think he will have to get an attorney to force me to sell the house. If he gets an attorney I fear that will just increase the problems.
At this point, with the three OWs (that I know of), his passive aggressiveness, his failure to work on himself/issues, I don't want this person he has become.
In the meantime, I am considering stopping inviting him to come along to the activities I plan with S. I don't like having him around. He barely talks to me so it feels like torture spending time with him. Is this too aggressive of a move?
Also, he texts me everyday now about the time I pick S up from daycare. He asks me how S is doing. (Rarely, if ever, asks about me.) It's getting kind of annoying. I feel like he is doing this so he can look like a concerned, caring father. I would prefer not to respond because it just irritates me, but I don't want to shoot myself in the foot. Any advice?
