I've filed but I'm open to discussing R if she comes out of the fog, reaches out, and is genuinely remorseful. I'm just not sure that will happen because her denial of responsibility for her actions isn't new but rather something that's always been a part of her. She's fueled by hate towards me now and changing that would involve admitting she messed up. I guess I'm just looking for support and advice from others who have gone through the same thing.
Thats fair. But why did you file? What was your intention?
Originally Posted By: brizz
I haven't read DR but definitely would if we were still in contact. Does it apply to my situation? I've not seen my W since 1/10 and last texted 1/15 so there aren't really situations to apply anything towards her. The NC has been tough. We'd text during the day and talk in the evenings and it's hard to not have that.
I dont think being in contact has anything to do with this. Honestly, you talk a lot about the shortcomings of your wife, but I dont see much as to your own contributions to the downfall of your marriage in your postings. Without learning how to improve your relationships, why would you expect your next one to end differently? Honestly, I think EVERYONE should read Divorce Remedy.
Originally Posted By: brizz
For GAL.. I'm exercising, reading, and going out to lunch/dinner with friends and family. I'm looking into signing up for a kickball team. But I'm also spending a lot of time just laying on the couch depressed.
For me, the best thing I did was to join some new things. Sure, friends and family time is important. But I found that it let me dwell on my situation. I went out and met new people that knew nothing of my ex or my situation. That freed me to be the person I wanted to be and really helped me get out of the 'funk' and maintain my PMA.
