Love your post. You have a unique way of observing and describing life and a talent for writing about it.
(With your sales background maybe you should look into marketing it )
I'm sorry about how your doing financially. I think it all comes down to the fact that if you have the foresight and perhaps enough cunning and motivation to plot and plan correctly the system will be made to serve you. Its not pure business though because of the love and emotion involved. So the person that is capable of turning off that emotion and treating it as a heartless venture usually does better.
I get where your coming from...My ex's net worth statement shows that he pays 200 more for his total car expenses/month then he does in support. (i am not getting alimony) My ex claims to spend 1000 in food and eating out per month for just himself. Almost the same that he is giving me in support. My ex gives me 94 dollars less per month then he is supposed to and has not contributed to most of the extra curriculars or child care that he was ordered to. i just dont have the bandwidth to argue anymore. Meanwhile, I am living with my parents. He earns 2/3 more then me. HE is also entitled to half of my savings. He claims to have none. I really hope he wont go there.
As I type to you, I am trying to get him to agree to out of pocket OT for our son that would cost him an extra 150 per month if we split the price evenly. He is concerned about the cost. ( I have grown a lot through this process. In the past I would have asked him to eat a little bit less for the month so our son could have this service. I held back)
I too am trying to focus on living in the spaces : )
Sorry for the high jacking. I feel for you. I am not a lawyer. I do not know the laws where you reside. Only what I am experiencing and what woman I know are experiencing. I really feel for you because I think you were one of those guys that suffered not necessarily because of the law, but because you were trying to do the best by your family and acted in an honorable and moral way. And the system certainly does not always recognize that. One day Your children will though.
Your a great guy and a hard worker Zues. I wish finances would get easier for you. Because that would be fair.
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