Gordie: Pulling it all together 2

[SBJ]

What is the right MLC strategy to avoid being Plan B?

I know dating is one strategy, but don't think that would be right for me.

Gord, I don't have the answer to the Plan B question...I would assume that if we continue to allow them to cake eat, then they would always see us as a push over. I would imagine that once they see that you are moving on to work on yourself and grow on your own, then they might realize that you are not going to be there as a plan B in the future.

As for the dating thing??? I cannot see myself doing that right now either. I know that is something that she is wanting to get on with, but I know I am not ready for that. They checked out a long time prior to BD...we are still processing things. I don't know how long that will take, but I am sure we will be made aware when it hits.

I am not a religious man, but I think you are being too focused on your prayers being unanswered. My understanding of it is God has basically three responses each of which is for your own best interest.
1 Yes. Prayer is answered and you get what you asked for.
2 No. You don't get it as God viewed it not in your best interest. Garth Brooks sings a good song about unanswered prayers being the best gifts from God
3 NOT YET. You need to let go of your need for a quick turnaround.IIt will happen if it is supposed to happen when the time is right. Have faith in that.

roist...I agree with some of what you said, but I have found 5 ways that He answers prayers.
1. No, I love you too much to answer that.
2. Yes, but you'll have to wait. You should pray and he will answer in his timing. "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be open to you". Matthew 7:7
3. Yes, but not what you expected. Pray and he will answer you, but it may be in a different manner than what you asked. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your path straight". Proverbs 3:5-6
4. Yes, and here's more. Pray and he will answer you in a greater manner than you could ever have imagined. "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future". Jeramiah 29:11
5. Yes, I thought you'd never ask. Many prayers go unanswered because they have never been asked. "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective". James 5:16

Not arguing with anyone about it, but sometimes we have to walk by faith and not by sight...I don't understand exactly what my W is going thru, but if I keep my eyes on the Lord and continue to grow in my faith, then I have the faith that all things will fall into place.

I'm not saying that there won't be days of anger and frustration, but it is how we get thru that that matters. It helps me to pray for peace, strength and patience throughout this trial.

I am also trying to continue to learn and understand more on the MLC/WAW issues, but will we ever really understand exactly what they are going thru?