It's about her growth as a person for her, irrespective of me. And for me like I said growth is mandatory.
I'm going to revisit this statement. It reads like you almost demand that someone grow with you to have your approval, am I correct? So, for instance, if a person was happy in their own self and didn't do things to "grow," do they get kicked to the curb for not following your wishes? Isn't that kind of a selfish thing?
Yes, that is correct. Not to have my approval, but to have a relationship with me yes. I'm growing because when I grow my spouse also reaps the benefits of my growth. I'm not interested in a relationship where my other half is not growing.
