I get it, it's scary! Anyway, what I've learned to do is not contact people who a) write "ask me" as their profile b) carry on about what they don't want c) put 20 photos of themselves online d) "let's be friends first" (is this Facebook?) e) "I'm new to this and not too sure about it" . I've learned to go with my gut with women too. Sometimes I think I've ditched them too early and go back but find out very quickly I should have stuck with my original gut decision. Anyway, I don't know if that helps but...
You know, just for kicks I've been looking at some of the sites for locals and this seems to be a common theme. Dang. Saw quite a few that I know on there.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
