You can't stop loving and caring for her...because you feel sorry for her. I get why you texted her -- not encouraging it, but I get it. Those moments of weakness creep up on us, don't they? I hope she does you no harm.
Yes, yes they do. Its those dang nights that are the worst.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.