Unfortunately I cant look at her phone bill, it is through her mom's company. She is not as discrete as she thinks she is when she puts in her phone password, so I can get it, the problem arises when trying to access her phone. She either changes it before I have a chance to try to get in, or else I can't get to it.
So she has been keeping her phone on her nightstand, (for the last 2 weeks) and really the only time I really wanted to get in it was when she slept on it one night (because she was texting the om, more than likely).
Today's interaction I really brought up the secrecy issue. I told her that she doesn't want privacy, she wants secrecy. I will try to be patient.
I think I threw this out there this morning, but from Coach's boundary post I told her that I do not want an open marriage. Today my IC and I worked on boundaries. So one of her big things is that twice I left work to confront her. She likes to say that I don't need to leave work. Well me and the IC talked about how she is trying to enforce her boundaries on me. Next time we have a boundaries talk, or she tries to enforce a boundary on me I should say:
"you are trying to create boundaries in my life when you yourself will not receive my influence regarding your boundaries, i.e. strict no contact, transparency, and not drinking." Any thoughts?
Me:33, WW:30 BD:12/14/16, EA no children Still together
