Hi bsb,i'm so sorry you are going through this, and my heart goes out to you. I'm going through a similar situation. My question for others here is, why does the wayward temperature check? is it purely to satisfy insecurity, or to punish? is there really no desire underneath it all to reconcile?
thanks
I have been the same thing. Just curious.
Me47 W45 D19(In heaven) S23 D21 Grandson19mth. BD 7/16 W moved out 10/16. D21 and grandson live with me.
Hi bsb,i'm so sorry you are going through this, and my heart goes out to you. I'm going through a similar situation. My question for others here is, why does the wayward temperature check? is it purely to satisfy insecurity, or to punish? is there really no desire underneath it all to reconcile?
thanks
I have been the same thing. Just curious.
Been wondering the same thing.
Me47 W45 D19(In heaven) S23 D21 Grandson19mth. BD 7/16 W moved out 10/16. D21 and grandson live with me.
They want to have you as a plan B, in case their "true love" does not pan out. They also suffer from entitlement, they are convinced that a grave injustice has been committed against them and that they have taken care of all around them for years and now is finally the time for them to be happy. They also distort and rewrite history and a LBS is often perplexed and left wondering WTF is going on and it is quite often that a LBS begins questioning their own sanity...
They want to have you as a plan B, in case their "true love" does not pan out. They also suffer from entitlement, they are convinced that a grave injustice has been committed against them and that they have taken care of all around them for years and now is finally the time for them to be happy. They also distort and rewrite history and a LBS is often perplexed and left wondering WTF is going on and it is quite often that a LBS begins questioning their own sanity...
Thanks Vapo. That sounds about right.
Me47 W45 D19(In heaven) S23 D21 Grandson19mth. BD 7/16 W moved out 10/16. D21 and grandson live with me.
Or checking if they say jump,you jump and ask how high,
Me 56 w52 M30 years 4x adult kids W dad died/11 W wanted d 03/12 In-house sep 03/12 D 2014 I pushed W Left on 02/16 I pushed Pa on 07/16 Nc after 07/16 W Cakeating 15to16 Me doormat 12to16 Limbo 12to16
Wife is still texting and calling every few days. Starts off nice and asking the same old questions if I miss her, etc. Still wants to meet but won't tell me why. When I don't play along she starts getting mad. I just start ignoring at that point. It's getting old!! I asked her again last night why she wants to meet. I even went as far to say is it to work on things or to talk about dividing assets?? She responded by asking that it shouldn't matter and I should just want to see her if I still loved her...
I hate the games. I know many would love to have contact with their spouse but not like this
Wife is still texting and calling every few days. Starts off nice and asking the same old questions if I miss her, etc. Still wants to meet but won't tell me why. When I don't play along she starts getting mad. I just start ignoring at that point. It's getting old!! I asked her again last night why she wants to meet. I even went as far to say is it to work on things or to talk about dividing assets?? She responded by asking that it shouldn't matter and I should just want to see her if I still loved her...
I hate the games. I know many would love to have contact with their spouse but not like this
They sure don't like it when they don't get there own way, They are spoilt teenagers,I want it,and I want it now,
Me 56 w52 M30 years 4x adult kids W dad died/11 W wanted d 03/12 In-house sep 03/12 D 2014 I pushed W Left on 02/16 I pushed Pa on 07/16 Nc after 07/16 W Cakeating 15to16 Me doormat 12to16 Limbo 12to16
They want to have you as a plan B, in case their "true love" does not pan out. They also suffer from entitlement, they are convinced that a grave injustice has been committed against them and that they have taken care of all around them for years and now is finally the time for them to be happy. They also distort and rewrite history and a LBS is often perplexed and left wondering WTF is going on and it is quite often that a LBS begins questioning their own sanity...
Sounds like my situation. Seriously, WTF is going on? Ugh.
M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6 11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing 1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break 2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing 2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
