Ok... First let me apologize for having taken so long to respond. My W was gone Th-Sat, we had suoerbowl her on Sunday and I've been working my its off with the kids. Gordie, thanks for the kind words. My short term goals are: workout, work, focus on kids, stay calm and stay happy. Long term goals: prepare for the worst! (Start looking at job opportunities back home and look into housing options and how I will support my children and myself if and when we move. this preparation has been helping me GAL and act "as if". No matter how good it looks at times I know she can't be trusted right now, so I believe planning for a future without her is the best thing I can do for my kids and myself. My goals for this week. Stay calm, create a cheery home environment, validate when needed, spend family time together (W included). You'll see where this is headed in a sec.
Sandi2, She's exhibited all the Classic textbook behaviors and markers of MLC. 1. The passions gone. 2. I love you but I'm not in love with you. 3. I need my independence. 4. We got together to young, I didn't have a chance to experience anything. 5. I need space. 6. I want to focus on my career. 7. Excessively shopping for clothes. 8. Comes home and goes to her room, closes the door, puts music on. 9. Walks around the house with headphones on. 10. Ignores kids, only focuses on what she wants. 11. Travels for work and party's every night she's out. 12. Drinks excessively 13. Wants to travel more, even though it's hurting children. 14. Works out obsessively (even though she's in tremendous shape) 15. Does all this but comes home from trips and wants to talk about her Accomplishments like a kid looking for praise. Sandi2, she also reacts the way an MLC'et would act when chased, (as I was guilty of this in the past before I found these boards). Whether she's in a PA of an EA is yet to be seen. I don't believe she's having either. But if she is I believe I'm doing the right things for now to help to understand she's got a better home here and the grass isn't always greener. I've seen guilt in her eyes from time to time (I know this passes quickly in MLC). But I think the more she feels it the more it will have an impact to on her. The guilt relates to our kids, not really me. Thanks for taking the time to ask though, I appreciate it. What do you think? MLC? Let me know AK8
