I hope you both can get help and she can get rested. Sleep deprivation can have bad side effects.

At least she is not talking divorce, at the moment....right? Maybe you will be able to relax your nerves a bit.

Sam, how long has it been since just the two of you were able to get away for a weekend? She might not be comfortable leaving the children in the care of someone else, but she seems so physically frazzled that it must affect her emotions and thought pattern.

I think I have asked once before, but is she a SAHM?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!