I understand the questioning of some things, especially when you've grown so much. I did that too. We were fully back together, and still are, but I started to realize that I think I can do better. All I got out of the deal was a return of a cheating wife. I broke my co-dependence. I'm not dependent on anyone but myself now. That gives me a much better perspective on potential mates. I love my wife with all my heart. The thing is, I don't need her. I want her but I know for a fact I would be just fine without her. I don't "need" anyone. None of us do. My revelation of that and subsequent change in my demeanor as a result of it has really changed our entire dynamic. I was always the chaser of my wife. Now I'm the chased. We reversed rolls after her MLC/affairs.
