Figuring it out - WAW with Affair

[KevinIn]

Second, I really moved on, didn't just pay it lip service, asked some nice ladies out to lunch, coffee, movies, etc. Nothing serious. Not really dating, just friends and fun.

Getting back on that horse, however short the ride, works wonders, no?

It is refreshing. Even if super casual with no expectations.

I had on of my daughter's friends single mom meet me for dinner with all our kids. Even with the kids, it was nice to have time with her.

[Dawgs]

It is refreshing. Even if super casual with no expectations.

I had on of my daughter's friends single mom meet me for dinner with all our kids. Even with the kids, it was nice to have time with her.

Very much so. Wait, this was a date with the single mom? Do the kids know?

[TxHubby]

Second, I really moved on, didn't just pay it lip service, asked some nice ladies out to lunch, coffee, movies, etc. Nothing serious. Not really dating, just friends and fun.

Getting back on that horse, however short the ride, works wonders, no?

Absolutely. Getting left or, worse, getting cheated on makes you lose all your self-worth. Getting back on the horse gives it all back to you in spades.

[Dawgs]

Absolutely. Getting left or, worse, getting cheated on makes you lose all your self-worth. Getting back on the horse gives it all back to you in spades.

Wholeheartedly agree. I think that some have issue with that line of thought. But it is like falling off, the long you wait the less chances of doing it again. It works wonders for the soul.

[KevinIn]

Very much so. Wait, this was a date with the single mom? Do the kids know?

It definitely was not a date. Just a single mom whose kid is good friends with my kid. More like a play date for the kids, but during dinner and without my wife. Nothing more, but it felt refreshing nonetheless (we both did laugh, which was a good change)

[TxHubby]

Very much so. Wait, this was a date with the single mom? Do the kids know?

It definitely was not a date. Just a single mom whose kid is good friends with my kid. More like a play date for the kids, but during dinner and without my wife. Nothing more, but it felt refreshing nonetheless (we both did laugh, which was a good change)

Of course it felt refreshing. You felt like a man with worth again. You always were but this play date reminded you of it. You could work with a therapist for 1000 hours and they can't restore your self-worth like one fun evening with a really nice member of the opposite sex even if there is zero romance involved.

[Gordie]

Re hobbies, what did you enjoy when you were single when you controlled your own time? You've got the gym which is great. Group exercise is also great for meeting friends, both men and women. What about art, music, writing...something you can do to tap into more expressive parts of yourself? Travel, foreign languages, food, wine? When was the last time you tried something new or unexpected?

[KevinIn]

a feel good moment this morning...

Last week i bought a new, slim fit suit with slim profile tie and a nice new dress shirt - all very modern style and tailored to fit my skinnier, leaner body from working out so much over the past months.

My wife was coming over before work today for a kid swap, so I put on the new suit. She walked in the house and said "wow. I like the new suit." She was genuinely taken back (definitely no acting).

I said yep and that i had an important meeting tiday, and then i got my stuff and left.

I'd like to think it was solid execution of DBing.

[doodler]

I said yep and that i had an important meeting today, and then i got my stuff and left.

I'd like to think it was solid execution of DBing.

Awesome!

[KevinIn]

What does everyone do when you really just want to talk to the walkaway wife?

Ive been good the past days, but suddenly i just want to talk and have her explain what shes feeling and if she's still wanting to throw away our marriage and family.