Giving up and filing for divorce probably isnt the right definition of success right now. Im having one of those days though where it sounds tempting.
I did the passive thing for 2 years. It was a living hell. I had a cake eater on my hands and I was serving her the cake. I woke up one day and found my missing testicles. Hobbies? I took up some. First, I filed for divorce and had her served. Second, I really moved on, didn't just pay it lip service, asked some nice ladies out to lunch, coffee, movies, etc. Nothing serious. Not really dating, just friends and fun.
WOW DID THAT NOT HAVE AN INSTANT IMPACT!!! More impact than anything I had tried from any program on any website. She was sitting on a fence and eating cake (like your wife). I took away her cake and knocked her off the fence. In a nanosecond I went from pursuer to pursued. I realized I was the quality spouse. I was faithful. She wasn't. She was a cheater. Who the hell wants a cheater? Once this was my mindset she saw that I was the "winner" of this whole thing and that I was going to move on and have a great life. She decided she wanted in on that. Sobered her up from a 3 year MLC crisis in a white hot second. I wasn't even sure if I wanted her anymore. She became the crier, the begger, the sobber. She became the clingy one pursuing me. I felt like a million bucks because I was moving on to more quality non-cheating women. Well, my heart softened and if you read my signature you know that it worked out. We love each other and respect each other. My wife knows one thing. Cross even ONE boundary with a member of the opposite sex, one flirty text, one advance by a male that isn't immediately shut down, etc. and I'm gone. Gone for good and I'll be just fine. Millions of wonderful loyal loving caring beautiful women in this world who would be thrilled to be with a successful, nice, smart, in shape, loyal man.
That's my two cents. This whole passive thing where she laughs at your boundaries and disrespects you at her leisure? That's not going to work. She's going to think even less of you for that. Good luck my friend. I really mean that.
