Ever since then (and believe me I know when she is being insincere) we have become closer than ever. The physical side has also increased (I appreciate there could be various reasons for this but again this is definitely heartfelt). (f) the EA is heavy and still going on yet everything is so "normal" here. I just don't get it, we are getting on so well.
She is hot & heavy for the OM (that's why your sex life has increased) and if the affair hasn't already gone physical, it's just around the corner. Her heighten excitement comes from her OM and it carries over into her soulmate relationship with you. As long as you allow her to have the OM in her life, then she's content to be wife and soulmate with you.......at least, for now.
So, everything is not normal. I can't say you are being deceived, b/c you know she's in an EA. Having an EA is very serious to women b/c it is about feelings & emotions.......which is usually the important part of a relationship, in most women's opinion. Whereas, some H's tend not to get too worked up about his W being in an EA, just as long as it doesn't go PA. To him, the physical side of the relationship is what counts most.
Would it be a deal breaker for you if you discovered the affair had turned physical?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
