not yet, esp as she doesn't know I'm monitoring the situation. That's my entire point, apart from the honeymoon period over CHristmas when she was addicted to her phone there has been no standoffishnesh whatsoever, i.e. completely normal behaviour. That's why I thought about the "compartment" theory. Yes, I hope I never meet the OM.

Me 55, W 50
D 8
M 20
T 27
MIL w/ us
BD 01/02/17
workplace A (12/09/16, EA -> PA)
OM senior manager, long term W, child 14
now: limbo (my choice)

"Don't care what you may do, we got that attitude!" - Bad Brains