the EA is heavy and still going on yet everything is so "normal" here. I just don't get it, we are getting on so well.
You will find that they are very, very adept at hiding it. It may/may not have crossed to the PA level. Let me ask you this - has your sex life changed in any form, as in dropped off/stopped or increased, maybe dramatically?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.