@SBJ: Yes I agree it is certainly a choice we make to spend our lives with another person. I'm not sure I'm fully understanding your 1st paragraph. Communication is not the problem for us at this particular moment in my relationship. Its not about giving me anything at all. It's about her growth as a person for her, irrespective of me. And for me like I said growth is mandatory.
@10083: It's not a wait or go thing for me. I think Cadet said it best "catch up or not". I can say without a doubt her growing is for her not me. There is 1000% without a doubt no disdain.
I know many won't get what I'm saying, I know it might not jive with where you currently are... Where we stand depends on where we sit. It's all about perspective.
