Figuring it out - WAW with Affair

[Cadet]

What is your definition of success?

My immediate, short term measure is that she genuinely wants to try to fix things.

As of 4 weeks ago, she said "i do not want to try to fix things" and she has spent the time since doing things that definitely dont help (e.g. talking to the other guy).

My point is you can't measure success based upon what someone else will do.
You can only measure it upon what YOU will do.

You can not control someone else - only yourself.