I filed - Anxious to get it over

[fightin]

Ha, yeah mine too, 10.

Yes, it moved super fast, and my reasoning for filing was to get it done before she was ever served for the custody stuff, but that didn't work out since my L took his sweet time. Hoping now that I don't end up with more of the debt, but if I do then I'll deal.

I wanted so much to fix my M at first, but the more I'm away from her the more I see our M clearly and I don't like what it was. That and she's shown me a very ugly side of her through this D as well. I absolutely applaud those that want to fix their Ms and rebuild. I think that is amazing; I just decided in this case it wasn't what I wanted after all.

Updates:
Finally got a court date of March 10th. She goes to court for the custody stuff on Feb 17th. She got served on Friday 2/3. She text me and asked me if I knew anything about it. I stated yes, but that I wanted to stay out of the middle of it. She said she appreciates that and really respects that. Not the reaction I was expecting given the things she's been saying about me lately, but I was glad for it.

She's now telling people that I left her and she never wanted me to leave that it was all my idea, and that I ran up her credit cards and stuck her with all of the debt. For one, I never had access to her credit cards. Much closer to the truth is that WE put OUR vacations on her credit cards and until we split we were busting butt to pay those down as fast as possible. I decided not to confront her about it though. She'd either deny it or buy into the BS she's spouting and quite frankly I don't care what people think of me. The ones that know me know better and the ones that don't can think what they want.

I do find it quite laughable, however, that she reportedly said that I was the one to leave her and she didn't want that and that she only moved her gf in because I left her abruptly and stuck her with all the bills. She almost makes it sound like she wanted me to stay, but of course keep her gf on the side as if they makes her look better somehow than her asking for a D.

I'm just biding my time until the D if official and then I'm going to wash my hands of her as much as possible.

Hope everyone has a wonderful week!