Just a small 2 x 4. When you say "She is a Sunday Christian". Her "Actions don't match her words", this takes on a judgemental position. I'm not saying you are wrong, but understand most of us see things from our own perspective and not through someone else's eyes.
The problem with judgement is it can take on a negative aspect and this negative aspect can lead you down a path where you don't let other people's opinions or actions count.
I understand this is a tough journey. Especially when a spouse does things that you don't agree with or is in the best interest of the family. There is a line in a book from James Hollis - become comfortable with uncomfortableness. Much of life puts us in those positions.
What I get out of this is you need to put yourself first to be healthy, similar to DR, DB. Heal yourself first. Once you do I think things like judging other people's actions ie wife aren't that important and you can allow people to be who they are. Now you may not like who they become and you have some choices to make.
This is a difficult journey. I wanted to give another perspective for you to think about.
