She moved out, filed, but I'm still working Pt. 5

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***1. What was the issue regarding regularity in the romance department?

We've been together longer than we were apart. 25 years together and she is 43. In the beginning things were great and then we had that life thing happen. 3 kids, work, volunteering, extended family obligations, etc. She has always been kind and caring, but has never been extremely passionate when it came to the bedroom. Now that she has gone thru her physical transformation...she feels she wants passion...just not with me. And claims that she will never be able to be with me again.

***2. You also indicated she had an EA which preceded the BD. What was she getting from the EA that she wasn't getting in the M?

The EA went from April-July that I know about. We didn't meet this guy until then so I know that it didn't start earlier, but I can't really say that it ended. She changed her cell service and all of her passwords so there was no way to snoop. Good for me, because I would have been OCD about it.

As for what she got out of it...she claimed they were just friends and that it was nice to have a male friend that didn't expect anything from her. I call BS on that statement. I can't speak to his intentions, but I did tell him to cut all ties with her and my family. Again...can't tell for sure if that happened. I'm sure there is some resentment from her that I ended their EA...right?

***3. Also, has your W just drifted away from the faith...or is she in rebellion against it?

She is more involved with our church and our outreach programs now than she has ever been. Again, I feel that she is putting on a costume...showing everyone an exterior of this perfect Catholic woman, but not living what she preaches. We are all hypocrites, I know and we are forgiven in God's eyes, but you can't commit a sin over and over and keep asking for forgiveness...because you aren't really sorry for what you are doing.

Maybe she is rebelling against me. I don't know. I'm no psychologist, but I know that her mother did this same thing to her father when my wife was young, and her grandmother did the same thing to her grandfather. This is a generational thing with them. None of the women were sorry for what they did, but when talking to my FIL, he desperately wanted to work things out. He didn't get the chance. He is utterly confused at why she is doing this to me and our kids, but he sees the similarity to my MIL.