Figuring it out - WAW with Affair

[Dawgs]

hopefully the MC is actually wanting to help you save your M. My W used our MC sessions as divorce facilitation from the second meeting. Finally I caught on what she was doing and decided to end the sessions. She moved out and filed in November...3 months after BD. She had her mind made up from the get go...I think. No real desire to work things out.

Our first MC was like that. She used him to validate her reasons for divorce. He never tried to work it out and save the marriage. We did five sessions with him. Our second, and last, was awesome...she tried to work it out to save the marriage. But as SBJ said, my ex's mind was made up and there was nothing that could have been done. And then there was the fact that she lied about the affair even after the MC presented evidence. Good times. Not.

I pray that your path is shown to you. You are not alone in this fight. She is battling demons that you know nothing about. Try and let go even more and see what happens. You can only control you.

^This. Remember the road analogy. You are each on your own roads. Unfortunately, hers doesn't have room for you. But, you can leave room for her on yours if you so choose...just know that only you can walk your path.