Advice needed

[Gordie]

You're getting mixed messages because, at best, she's confused herself. At worst, she's being manipulative.

Why do you want to leave the house? You mean for a couple hours, or move out?

Just for a few hours to clear my head. I can't think straight. I know if I ask to leave for a few hours, she'll get upset and think that she can't rely on me. She asked me not to work today so I could look after the kids while she did the paperwork for the business.

If she asks you to watch the kids and you need to physically remove from your situation, just say "I'm taking the kids out for..." choose your adventure...go to a park, a playground, the movies, anything...you both get much needed space and you get some bonding time with the kids.