Needing some Guidance

[KCRoo]

Well in the past I would blow up. So my 180 (and maybe I still don't get the concept) was not to get angry.

I read posts about ignoring what ever crap she is doing, and trying to GAL. I have told her my boundary of not being in an open relationship.

She tries to throw it in face and say that she doesn't tell me because of how I reacted to her emotional affair. I counter that with it is just a friendship, I wont react that way. IT is the secrets that are damaging our relationship.

So she just called me.

ww: you know I love you right?
me: it doesn't seem that way when you are calling another guy at 2 a.m.
ww: it wasn't meant to be like that
me: well obviously it was, you were drunk and called another man at 2 a.m.
ww: we were in a group text, him, me, and friend (girl friend I know), and we were texting.
me: what I cant take are the secrets. Obviously you know that what you are doing is f'ed up, or you wouldn't say it was meant to be like that. If he was "just a friend" one you would have told me about him, you wouldn't try to talk to him when you think I am asleep, and you wouldn't delete your texts
ww: I delete my texts with friend (girl mentioned above)
Me: I am not worried about you having sex with friend (girl), and in light of ea the fact that you are acting shady with another guy doesn't look good. This is a secret, the fact that you never told me about him until you got caught. I have to get back to work because I am seeing my IC today, and that takes an hour out of my day.
ww: what are you going to tell your IC? I feel like he hates me
Me: the truth, I cant get the help I need if I lie to my IC. I have to go.
ww: ok

The call ends. She just plays games, to keep me on the hook.