That's just the thing though, I'm not asserting an argument at all. I'm not here for advice... I'm simply trying empower. I'm secure with were I am in my own personal relationship. The questions for most DBer's are usually in realm of "winning" the other person back. This was a two fold response. Yes, they comeback sometimes (success) but that is only half the equation, she didn't grow along with me (non-negotiable for me), so I'm saying focus on growing everything else follows...
