I figure a year of dating is long enough to know if two people are compatible. The Ex and I knew each other 4 months before we married, although it lasted 21 years it ended in tragedy. Had I spent some time with her, getting to know her family, background, and values I would have maybe realized that we where incompatible.
We were together almost a year before we got married. However, in that time and up until the divorce she hid many, many things from me - as in her abuse, etc. In many, no make that almost every way, we were compatible. I just never knew what she had gone through and how much it affected her perception of things. Sometimes they keep things hidden in the hopes that one never finds out, for whatever reason - which can often lead to failed marriages.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
