This used to be way easier - and a lot more fun!

[Maybell]

You can't look for "the perfect woman" and "a great relationship" at the same time. Looking for "the perfect woman" leaves YOU out of the equation. It just measures up a woman according to a set of checkboxes without taking into account what she might want from a relationship. It doesn't take into account how you contribute to the relationship either. If you want walks on the beach and she wants to go antique shopping in Paris (extreme example) then even if you check every one of her boxes and she checks every one of yours, then it's not going to work. Casting a wider net without knowing what you want and what you bring to the relationship won't get you any different results.

I can't find it right this minute but I'll try to dig up my old list in the next day or two to show you what I mean. I didn't know in the first couple of dates if My Guy fit the bill, but I did know within about three months. I do remember I put a geographic distance limitation on it, because I didnt' think I could learn much from my first post-marriage relationship if it was long distance; I did have a minimum height expectation on it (My Guy misses it by one inch, so it was a "nice to have" not a "have to have")' and the rest of it was things like "he wants to get out and do more than see a movie" or "he holds my hand."

There is something about the way you write about the women you're interested in that makes it sound like a constant audition for your attention, rather than a search for a partner. I also rarely hear about you showing interest in local women, so I wonder about that.

Is that enough for a start?