Hi Karen! I am so very sorry that you are here. But please know you will soon have a wonderful group of virtual friends here to help you through this.
As for myself, my bomb drop was in July and there was an OW in the picture.
I completely here what you are saying when you write that the rewriting is harder to bear than the idea of the OW. As you have probably read, they do it to justify their actions. As hard as it is, keep reminding yourself it is HIM, not you. You know what happened in the marriage. You know what kind of relationship you had with your H.
Continue doing what you are doing. It sounds like you are on the right track.
