Trouble is they got it all wrong we are their best friends in the world,and most of them had good lifes and they cant see that,but when in this sitch they have to learn that the hard way,unless of course they find a better life,
The sad thing is, they will never see that. Never. Most divorces are years in the making. Sure, some still want to be friends but they aren't in love with us, and that's the difference.
I agree with Jeep here. They will never see it. The key point here is not to worry about if they do or don't, in my mind that is still letting them control your emotions. The thing I tell myself when faced with these thoughts is "not my problem any more". Whether they find a better life, are miserable, turn to drugs or alcohol to numb and forget, those are all choices that they make, none of which you are in control of, and quite honestly never where. Set boundaries for your own self healing, one big one is to get it out of your mind as to what life will bring them. That takes the focus off of yourself, do you, do it well, and spend that energy pondering how to make your life better from this point forward.
I agree with you both on what you wrote,but I do believe some of them see the light and want to comeback then its a question off will the lbs have them back,also my wife was playing touch and go with me after the divorce and even after she left the home, The only reason she is still not playing it is cos I found out about the om and have not spoke to her since that day,and I'm sure she still loves me and misses me
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