Try Not to Think Too Far Ahead

[Gordie]

Kyh,

Thanks for your advice. I've been reading your threads and learning from your situation. A few comments/observations/questions:

1. You were under the same roof for a while after BD before she moved out; was it better or worse for your relationship and children after you separated?

2. It seems like you have a lot of contact/interaction with your W (texts, phone calls, talking at home, family outings) given that you are both involved with your kids on an almost daily basis, correct? How is this helping you achieve your goals?

3. It seems like you have very strong suspicions about your W meeting up with OM, but it seems like you have a lot of self control in not asking questions. This seems like a good DB approach (I'm doing the same thing), but curious to know why did you choose this approach?

4. Your W seems to cycle from being icy cold to being relatively normal/friendly and you have detached from those cycles pretty well; a while ago you were still doing massages, etc., do you still have physical contact/affection (hugs, kisses)?

5. It seems like you are slowly in the divorce process, but you're not yet officially divorced, correct? When you are officially divorced, how do you expect it change your current dynamic (or perhaps not at all)?