When my EX-WW found out the kids were home for a few hours before xmas, and I was on a date, she went ballistic with a tirade of texts. I have her on permanent mute, thank God. But the date went splendidly, kisses were exchanged, and then when I get back to the car - BLAMO! She's shaming me, telling me I'm a bad dad, and she's taking me back to court for child neglect.
It was all her being angry that I had moved on. She realized her plan B was no more. This was 6 months AFTER the divorce!
coffee, take things slow with the GF. REALLY slow. Coming form someone who kept telling myself the same, but I was really running downhill, picking up speed faster than I could cover on the ground. You don't know you're going too fast until you're on your keister flip-flopping your way down the hill, like one of those naster super-G falls at the top of the slope, and you keep sliding, sliding, sliding...
Well, my .02. And it's worth what you paid for it.
Thank you for the advice. I understand the feeling of flopping down the hill because I was moving too fast. The relationship with the GF moved fast at first, to the point of being exclusive. Now I am quite involved, but it is a long distance relationship which helps keep it at an even keel. I have no plans on relocation and neither does she. For now we are just enjoying each others company. I have no intention to marry again any time soon and will take it very slow in that reguard. I figure a year of dating is long enough to know if two people are compatible. The Ex and I knew each other 4 months before we married, although it lasted 21 years it ended in tragedy. Had I spent some time with her, getting to know her family, background, and values I would have maybe realized that we where incompatible.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
