But also looking at our own failings can lead us down two paths: change for the better within our own selves; or, down the rabbit hole of depression/what ifs.
I thinking I feeling 75% better with the recognition of my failures and 25% depressed. That 25% is getting less because I realize that the Distancer situation contributed to my response and exacerbated my shiddy personality traits.
I wish a successful DBer (BlueWave?) would weigh in. What we're basically saying here is just to give up once we recognize the permenance of our spouse's problems.
