-- Where is your W living now? Where are you living? Where are the children? How much interaction do you have with your W at present?
Gordie, My W is currently living with her parents until her apartment is ready from the previous renters. She was planning on staying at the house till it was but said she felt that leaving on the first of the month would be best.. (moreso for the 1 year separation time for our state to finally begin I feel...)
The children are split with joint custody, no one physical custody however since I am in our home all of their stuff is there too right now. We exchange weekly and they are with her right now, where for now since she is at her parents they are just bringing things back and forth..
Communication with her is very little unless it is about the kids. She expressed yesterday that she "Does not want to talk to me just to talk.. but knows that she has to communicate for the children..."
This is the same person that not just 2 months ago was a totally different person! Even when she was in the house she was friendly and helpful and talked as a family essentially.. just nothing about us. I'm beginning to think though that was all a front to keep me calm for the separation agreement.. as now that she is not living at home and the papers are signed.. shes hateful acting..
We tried to discuss the exchange of our children in the afternoon during her weeks since I pick them up from school still and I expressed that I was not comfortable and did not feel that bringing them to her work to sit for an hour everyday they're with her would be good.. plus the people there are the ones that are toxic! And I don't really want them around our children! I stayed completely calm during this conversation and she fired back with "Of course, everything has to be your way.. not any one elses way still.." To which I replied with that was not the case, that we had discussed this before and both agreed that her work would not be a good exchange place, nor was it a good idea for them to be there if they didn't have to..
I just don't understand where this hatred has come from and complete lack of wanting to even talk.. She told me when she was in the house that she wanted to still be friends.. and be amicable through all of this, that "she had fallen out of love..." To me, if that was the case.. you wouldn't have so much hatred towards someone would you?
She continue to hang out with OM as well, even though she said that it was just going to be a work relationship when we last talked about it.. She has changed so much in so little time without any remorse or looking back..
I'll post up the story after a bit this morning of what all went down to get us here...
