Help - Setting Boundaries, WW in EA - Thread #3

[Woke_Up]

I'm not sure, but I'm about to find out.

Last night, looked at her phone and saw she had sent another pic of my D to OM. That is my red rag to a bull. So I sent OM a Skype from her phone with a picture of us, and said does it look like I'm an ex. I told W I had done this. I then followed up with a couple of texts to OM telling him he didn't get to pretend to be a knight in shining armour, he was an OM - she was having an affair, and the pretence was going to stop.

He hasn't replied to me but W sent me a text asking me to leave the 'poor guy' alone.

He has gone, for now...

So, this. Opening, the rage starts. Not unexpected. Took the rest of my clothes which were still in her 'new' room, threw them downstairs. I carried them up to the MBR. She then proceeded to trash the MBR - pulled drawers out, threw my clothes everywhere, ripped up the copies of 'not just friends' and 'love must be tough' by my bed, scattered the pages all over the floor.

She has also said it is over, we are finished..

Says she will make my life hell. When I get another gf she will sabotage it. Says she detests me. She wants me to delete all photos of her from my phone. I kept my cool throughout all of it. I have gone out of the house for a bit, brought my phone and laptop, maybe do some work. I have a week off before my new contract starts.

So at the minute, my actions have pushed her further away. This is not great, but I ultimate wasn't strong enough to take her continued infidelity, especially involving my D. If I hadn't snooped, I wouldn't have known, and this wouldn't have happened. Then again I was failing miserably at putting in place boundaries and detaching from her.

I feel lost now, but I know I have to weather the storm. This is what happens when you don't manage to DB I guess... anyway, it will get worse before it gets better.