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Wonka, Gordie, Job and Kyh - thanks. And Gordie, trust me, I am not always strong.

Ok. So, Wonka, I read your post several times. Thank you for all the advice. It's so solid. I like the verbiage you offer when h starts to complain about aging. I am going to lift that!! I will print the whole post and re-read.

I know I need to fix the texting situation. Job, I know you have told me this several times, too. I see I am enabling the PA behaviors. I recognize that when he spews I need to ignore it.

Where I am at a loss is in those gray areas. Like when he texts (from outside the home--probably from the driveway!) that we are taking separate cars to the same place (because he is mad but too PA to say so). Do I just go along with the plan without texting anything back or do I go try to address it in person? If I address it, I am chasing him down.

I don't text him. I DO go and talk to him. But, anytime he is unconfortable he hides behind his phone. He waits until he is out of the home. I think he's caught in that I was coming down to answer/address him.

I am going to start asking for advice when the texting starts because clearly I am not breaking this pattern.

Thanks guys. I am sure it is frustrating to see me making the same mistake over and over again.