As you all know, ex-h got a big financial boost just before Christmas. He has purchased a 4 wheeler, a brand new truck, a boat and a camper. I' m happy for him but all this makes me wonder if our kids would not be better off with him since I will never be able to give them those things. I feel inferior and not up to par. I asked daughter if she wished we had these things. She admit missing OUR(my) cottage but she also said that he sleeps until 2 pm and by the time they could do something, the day is almost gone. They do not get to enjoy any of it. It was the same while he was here with us. Our yard was full but nothing was use unless I would take charge of it.
We discussed the positives that has been happening for the past little while and I said: " I wonder if he feel like he is running out of time towards us? He knows I want to relocate and you guys will be away on your own. I wonder if he feel like this will be it in regard of us?"
Her answer: " even if he was, it would not make sense since all the work is done now. he broke the trust, the love and respect. You raised us mom, you stood by us always! It would not work."
me: It might never happen. It might and might not be in his mind. Who knows?? Regardless, I am very proud of all of us. We have a greater outcome than the one I had envision way back. We KICK A** !!!! lol
so many weird and confusing event.. We think kids want nothing more than their parents to be together.. It is not always the case. It was not for me when I was a child and it is not for my children. This is why it is IMPORTANT to look at how we are treated and how we treat others. If we were a priority to him like he was to us, the children' s wish would be different and so would mine.
Last edited by job; 02/05/1703:56 PM. Reason: Added spacing between paragraphs
