Gordie: Pulling it all together 2

[Gordie]

W has also scaled back all signs of affections--physical and words. Up until this past week, these were daily...now it's come and go. Some days a hug or a kiss on the cheek. Some days nothing. She gave me one ILY which surprised me. I didn't say ILY back which is a change for me. No sex in several weeks. How should I respond when she is affectionate? I don't want to be cold but I want to stop the dance of pursuit and distance. Right now, I'm letting her do all the pursuing. If she hugs I hug her back of course. If she wants to kiss me, I let her. But I don't escalate the physical or words of affection, which is what I would normally do.