Hello, friends. What does it mean when my walk-away wife never initiates any contact with me? Prior to her going cold on me before she left, she was the primary initiator and craved my attention. We have been living apart since December 28th. She also ignores a whole lot of what I say to her over text, emails, letters that I gave her before she left, and Facebook messages. The last thing I said to her was "Sweet dreams, [slightly endearing petname]" in a text on Thursday night, right at her bedtime. I have heard no peep from her since. Since she left, I can hardly think of any contact that I've had with her that I didn't initiate. There have been times where she just showed up at the house and we hung out for a few hours, but other than that, I think I have initiated all contact. Some of our conversations have been very pleasant. My last encounter with her Tuesday, when she agreed to meet me at a park, with what used to be our dog, was an okay encounter, but tainted by her saying "well, this has been nice, I guess". And at one point, she was staring at mouth, and I said "Admiring my pearly whites?" and she said "You do have nice teeth. I can say that much.", which I took as her saying "but not much else", even though she used to compliment the hell out of me before she became bitter as she is now. It's not like I spam her with letters, emails, texts, etc. I did when she was still in the house, but this whole week, I saw her Tuesday, and sent her the "goodnight" message on Thursday night, and that's been it. Nothing on Monday, that I can recall.
Also, I have noticed that when I am around her, like on Tuesday, at the park, she stares at me like she is trying to figure something out, but as soon as I look at her, she looks away. Anyone know what that's about? I figured that she is studying my outward-appearing emotions, trying to figure out what I'm feeling. But I can only really guess at what she is doing. When I look at her and catch her eye for a moment doing that, the look that she is giving me isn't angry. It seems inquisitive, and if I may be so hopeful, perhaps even longing.
M: 33, W: 30 @BD M 7, T 10 BD: Early Dec W left: Late Dec W got stuff: Late Jan W sent S papers: Mid Feb OM cnfrmd: Late Feb
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