Is there a good link to start with on her ongoing affair/infidelity?
As it says in Divorce Remedy, and just about every other thing i've read, she won't even begin to change until she makes the decision to leave the affair.
M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6 11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing 1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break 2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing 2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process