Ok I will try and be as open and as transparent as I can be and you may then understand my W. Ok so for her there has been many many years of feeling let down and resentment me not doing my share of the house chores or my share of the child care and this is definatly true she would tell me she was struggling and I thought that I would help enough but it never was enough help I had an obsession with a computer game and I would often play this game for several hours she would call me I would say yes coming let me just finish this game and then I would start another game I guess it was an addiction she would end up either watching tv alone or she would end up putting the children to bed by herself. If I wanted to make love I might have sulked if she said no
I remember a time when I wanted it she said no I pressured her to make love she probably felt very unloved I remember a time she said no and I stormed off in a huff slammed a door went out for a drive I guess sulking because I could not get my way I do not think she was scared of me but she stayed in the marriage when she really wanted out. She told me that if we did not have children together then she would have left me years ago. So she thought all I wanted was more in the bedroom she gave me more and I still did not do enough to help her so she felt even more resentment and quickly withdrew sex I know she feels that I took her for granted did not aprichiate her enough
She still to this day will say but you are still not doing your share have you cooked three meals this week how many times this week have you vaccummed it needs to be done daily it is one big pile of resentment and feelings of being let down. When she had our children I did not take much time off work to help her and when she struggled I let her down by not helping enough I did not invest enough into the marriage . When we chatted she was devastated so so upset
