Another Statistic...

[Gordie]

IH:

Unfortunately, I've heard this speech as have many others here, looks like there may be some early signs of MLC too (needs to find herself, affairs, alienating family and friends, etc.), have you checked out those threads?

***W tells me that she needs space to find herself, that we got M too early and that maybe we were never even compatible and that there was a lot of Toxic things in our relationship from the beginning. She can't see the many years of good times that we had and feels this is the only option. Does not want to talk about R or go see a MC. She has alienated all of the friends and family members who cared for her and I thought she cared for, and has surrounded herself with new found friends and others who have divorced before or are separated or the OM, who continue to feed her full of negative things I feel.. maybe not? ugh.. ***

Good for you for recognizing your contribution to the demise of your marriage. It's taken me a while to accept that:

**I'm not sure how detailed I should go into the backstory on here, but I feel that over the last 10 years I have not been the best husband that I should have been. It [censored] that its taken the BD to cause me to really open my eyes and see that my priorities have not been in the correct places. I always thought that i was doing what was best for my family by looking to the future.. but by doing that I was removing myself from the present with work, goals, ambitions, and dreams. All the while not fully allowing my W to expand hers. I never saw it before but I feel that I was very egocentric and self absorbed as I grew in my careers. Which to me all of these things are VERY fixable now.. and should have been before. I can't change the past however. I know what I need to fix about myself to be a better father to my children and a better husband.. if only my W wanted that still..***

Where is your W living now? Where are you living? Where are the children? How much interaction do you have with your W at present?