I also said that I thought neither of us were in the right headspace to make such a big decision like this and we should both work on ourselves first.
My thought is that you should stop phrasing this as 'we' and start focusing more on 'I/me'. You should stop presuming to know what kind of mental/emotional state she is in. It's perfectly OK to explain your wants/needs/plans to some extent, but to try to control the way she makes her decisions isnt going to turn out well for you.
