By the 3rd week of this month (January) I had decided that I'd had enough. I was committed to the idea of giving my wife an ultimatum of "If you can't $hit or get off the pot, I will make your decision for you and file for divorce." I mulled over this ultimatum for a couple days and flip-flopped on whether or not it was a good idea about 100 times.
This is my thinking. You cant file for divorce as a means of trying to get her to 'do' or 'feel' something. You arent making 'her' decision. You file for divorce because you feel like your boundaries are crossed and you wont accept being in the position in which you are put. Or theres some financial or other kind of protection that you need from it.
Im glad you didnt file or even threaten to file. Im not sure it would have actually been of any benefit for you.
